The term microaggression was not familiar to me growing up in Detroit during the mid-1980s. Attending a diverse, Catholic school led me to believe the entire world held the same beliefs and values as our middle-class neighborhood.
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A microaggression is simply defined as the everyday, subtle, intentional or unintentional interactions or behaviors that communicate bias toward marginalized groups. The tricky part about a microaggression statement or action is that people who commit microaggressions might not understand how they are offending marginalized groups.
My first encounter with microaggressions was when I was working in a clothing store at a local mall. As I was folding the sweaters on the display wall my co-worker walked up behind me and asked with a grin, “Are you mixed?” Being the naïve 17-year-old that I was, I eagerly answered her question and responded with no. She challenged my response by asking yet another question of my identity. “So, are you fully Black?” she questioned again. Feeling proud to be a Black woman, I answered with a resounding “yes!” Then she proceeded to tell me how pretty I am — “for a Black woman.” I smiled and for about 10 seconds felt like the prettiest woman in the world. Then it hit me: That was not a compliment — that was a direct insult to my entire race.
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Is it that I can’t be attractive unless I have some other heritage running through my veins? The woman could have been deliberately vocalizing how she felt about all Black women … or honestly trying to give me a compliment. The statement haunted me for many years.
Fast forward to my career as a computer applications instructor. I was teaching computer science classes at a local community college when I was 29. Students came to the classroom door, took a step back, and asked if this was indeed Advanced Microsoft Excel. It would not have bothered me, but I noticed this happened several times during the next five minutes. Was the label on the door incorrect? Did it have a different title? Why the hesitation? I later came to realize that the students could not believe that a young Black woman could be teaching a college-level class in computer science (for credit).
Later while working at a prestigious university, I taught several computer classes for an IT department. I remember being so proud when I first landed my dream job. When class was over, evaluations were distributed to the students. My evaluations would say, “you’re so articulate” or “you speak so well” or “I could really understand you.” I remember asking my white colleagues if they had received similar comments on their evaluations. None of them had. I never understood why they evaluated me on my language and speech instead of how they could apply the skills for their work. After all, I was not there to present the information and be judged on my understanding of the English language.
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When I walk into a classroom or facilitate a discussion with a group, I wonder what statements or generalizations will be made about my teaching ability based on my identity.
Many marginalized people have some of the same interactions, if not more. Microaggressions are not always conveyed in language; it can be someone holding their purse tightly when someone from another race approaches. It manifests in a variety of ways — some subtle, others not.
Here is a short list of common microaggressions. Take a moment to look at how these statements could be offensive.
- “I don’t see you as Black,” or “I don’t see color.”
- “You’re not smart in math? But you are Asian.”
- “Can I touch your hair?”
- “You don’t sound Mexican.”
- “What are you?” or “Where are your people from?”
- “I’m not racist. I have a ______ friend.”
- “You have such a dark tan.”
- “You’re not like other gay people.”
- “I would never have guessed you were trans!”
- “Do you speak English?” — often asked to an Asian person
- Phrases such as: “That’s so gay” or “Indian giver”
- Situations such as: Faculty of color mistaken for a service worker, or an instructor tending to call on male students more frequently than female students
The Trouble? Microaggressions are like getting a small paper cut on your finger. One cut might not be so bad, but after several cuts it becomes cumulative over time. If someone says they don’t see you as Black, it might not offend you, but when experiences like this are commonplace, it can lower self-esteem and have you questioning the overall basis for the question.
Some people believe that microaggressions are subjective, but if the statement or behavior gives you an uncomfortable feeling, then trust your instincts! I teach in my classes the concept of intent vs. impact. The intent may not be to harm, but the impact is nevertheless the same.
About the Author
Monica Hickson is a Diversity, Equity & Inclusion (DEI) facilitator, writer, instructional designer, and technical trainer with over 23 years experience in online training/instruction, information systems, instructional design, and web development. In addition to her role, she is currently a Senior Performance Support Analyst (Instructional Designer) for the University of Michigan; a reporter at Concentrate magazine (2021); and a part-time writer for Medium magazine where she showcases her stories about COVID and DEI.
After losing her fiance to COVID-19, she became an advocate for the people who suffered during the pandemic. She has written several articles, and a book highlighting this turbulent time in our history. You can find her original works and articles on Medium, Zora, The Shadow, and several articles in Concentrate magazine.
She has worked in IT and higher education for organizations such as Macomb Community College, Henry Ford Community College, Marygrove College, Washtenaw College and other higher education institutions within Michigan; developed and delivered technical, soft skills, and leadership training for both Kelly Services and Ford Motor Company. She has also worked in Diversity, Equity & Inclusion (DEI) as a facilitator and trainer where she has developed more than 5 courses on Social Identities, Microaggressions, Becoming an Ally, Code-Switching and more.
During her career, she has obtained several certifications including a DEI certificate from the University of Florida and Microsoft Certified Trainer certifications.
She is a member of several University of Michigan DEI strategic lead teams; Women of Color Task-force (member), Facilitators Engagement Program – FEP (senior member), ITS DEI Education and Scholarship committee (co-chair) and a Women in Technology (member of the diversity group).
Hickson has two associate degrees in Liberal Arts and Office Information Systems from Oakland Community College, a Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism from Wayne State University, a Master’s Degree in Education from Central Michigan University, and has also completed other graduate course work beyond a Master’s Degree in Human Resources while at Central Michigan University.
She prides herself on being a cool hip mom, cancer survivor, a divorce survivor, and a trusted advocate for those who need it. Monica’s first book The COVID DIARIES hit Amazon February 2021. Her second book was completed March 2022 and is the prequel to The COVID DIARIES.

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