A Point of View: Soar When You Soar in Response to ‘Pet to Threat’

One thing I can do for myself as a fixer and a champion for change is to continue to roll up my sleeves and soar. There are moments as a practitioner advancing equity where I have felt the effects of the “pet to threat” phenomenon in corporate America. Pet to threat was coined by then-University of Georgia professor Dr. Kecia Thomas in 2013. Dr. Thomas used the term to identify the ongoing battle of Black women in higher education and the advancement track.  

According to Dr. Thomas’ theory, Black women are initially seen as likeable novices, but when they tap into power and equity, it threatens the dominant group. I have felt this and have had numerous conversations within my trusted networks about the harm this perception causes. This harm can come in the form of lack of advancement and hurtful microaggressions, such as when folks inquire “Who invited you?” as if you don’t belong. 

When confronted with this harm, it can sometimes feel as if there is nothing one can do. I recommend the following:   

1. When you soar, soar. As a professional in any environment, there will be moments when you feel caged. During those times, focus on what you are soaring toward, the areas that you are above, and when you feel free to be your best. If these moments do not exist, take it as a sign that it’s time to develop an exit strategy and plan to move on.  

2. Build agency. Build agency by getting to know people and reframing any critical and cynical thinking that doesn’t serve you. The only way we can do this is by getting involved and muting this idea of “perfect.” Trust that you are not the only individual to provide a solution. If you think this way, you might want to reflect on this idea of “superwomxn.” Be willing to build trust.  

3. Get involved. Take action in your local community. Find a place where you can advocate and tap into your hobby. No one place will provide all answers.  

4. Create those boundaries. Boundaries are especially crucial for fixers like myself. When we work, we encounter endless problems and feel compelled to come up with solutions. Evaluate what you can and cannot do, one project at a time. Intentionally pace yourself to avoid burnout so that you can continue to contribute.  

5. Protect your social media. Ok, this is HUGE: you need privacy. Don’t feel like you need to add your co-workers on your pages. Yes, maybe LinkedIn, but there’s no need to go further if it makes you uncomfortable to do so. Some folks are just keeping tabs, and, again, it’s important to draw boundaries.  

6. Find your vibe. What is it that gives you energy? It’s essential to release and give yourself space to be and know that your employment is not supposed to provide everything for you.  

7. Be real and evaluate yourself as well as systems. If we push for systems to change, we should evolve with them. I am very thankful for my chosen family who holds me accountable.

All in all, when you soar, soar. Our experiences as womxn are not monolithic and systems can change. Because these systems can change, I fully believe that it’s imperative to lean into our malleability and recognize that individuals, systems, and laws can change. It is equally important to pay attention to metacognition and how the brain is powerful, and the muscle of inclusivity must be worked out to prevent the caged, pet-to-threat mentality from overtaking our institutions.