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Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: Moving Beyond the Veil of Privilege

by Brittany J. Harris | Dec 12, 2024 | 0

“It’s so easy to be seduced by one’s own subordinated group identities.” These were words shared with me by a mentor and senior practitioner in this work. He was referring to social group identity and the ways in which our experiences and hyper-awareness around our non-dominant/subordinated group identities could influence our capacity to fully own and understand the power or privilege we have as a result of our dominant group memberships.

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: “If you weren’t so ANGRY, people would listen,” and the Problem with “Tone-Policing”

by Brittany J. Harris | Dec 12, 2024 | 0

Tone-Policing is one of those terms that I’d experienced well before knowing there was a “word for that.” One definition describes tone-policing as a “conversational tactic that dismisses the ideas being communicated when they are perceived to be delivered in an angry, frustrated, sad, fearful, or otherwise emotionally charged manner.” Tone-policing is typically used as a tactic in conversations seeking to address oppression and inequity.

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: “There Just Aren’t Any ‘Qualified’ Black People” and “Those Children Just Don’t Care About Their Education”

by Brittany J. Harris | Dec 12, 2024 | 0

“Those children just don’t care about their education.” “There just aren’t any qualified ‘diverse candidates’ in the pipeline.” “Parents in urban areas tend to be unmotivated and disengaged in our school processes.” “We hire people of color, but they just don’t stay long.” We must shift our thinking and shift these conversations if we are truly going to shift the system.

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: An Introduction

by Brittany J. Harris | Dec 12, 2024 | 0

“What should I say?” “How should I respond?” “I didn’t mean to be offensive!” “That wasn’t my intent.” “I’m over having these conversations!” “Conversations like these matter—but no one’s having them.” Over the next few months, we’ll be doing just that—Unpacking the Conversations That Matter. Our goal with this series is to be a resource, get prescriptive, hone in on the details and historical context, and support you in feeling empowered to have these conversations.

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: The Essential Power of Challenging Dominant Narratives

by Leigh Morrison | Dec 12, 2019 | 0

“Now what?” “How can I translate my learning into real change?” “What tangible action steps can I take?” Change is most likely to occur when supported by a combined effort of policies/commitment from leaders, and individuals feeling empowered to self-reflect and engage with others interpersonally in ways that push the needle toward greater inclusion. A the heart of these efforts is a key strategy: recognizing and unpacking harmful “dominant narratives.”

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: Pulling Yourself Up By Your Bootstraps When You Don’t Have Boots & Redefining “Hard Work”

by Thamara Subramanian | Dec 5, 2019 | 1

When we focus on the individual in our society’s view on “worked hard,” we are losing a vital but often overlooked part of success: the “Us.” We need to celebrate, recognize, and act upon the fact that an individual’s success is intertwined with the systems we live in — systems that in turn have their own unique conglomeration of power, privileges, opportunities, and adversities. Think about it this way: How can you pull yourself up by your bootstraps, if you never had “boots” to begin with?

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: “It’s just a joke! Why are you so upset?”

by Leigh Morrison | Nov 21, 2019 | 3

During my first day at an internship I once held, each of us was asked to tell a joke as part of our introduction to the staff and the rest of the intern cohort. This fun activity proceeded as planned… until the last intern told a hurtful, racist “joke” about poverty and food in another culture. It was followed by an awkward silence during which we all winced and looked around, uncertain how to respond. One of the staff eventually said, “Wow. Well. Let’s continue with our agenda.”

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: “That Place Is ‘Dangerous, Shady, Ghetto’ & Paradoxical Perceptions of Our Gentrifying Cities

by Thamara Subramanian | Nov 7, 2019 | 0

I’ll admit it: I love grabbing the occasional $5.00 latte at a super artsy coffee shop—often located in a newly “revived” part of the urban neighborhood I live in. Words on billboards and signs in front of new small businesses advertise the “revival” of a “rough” neighborhood “replenishing” the economy. I pay for my latte, and I turn left toward my apartment. But what happens if I turn right?

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: Distancing Statements – “I’m a good white person.” “I have a lot of diverse friends.” “I don’t get why this is so hard!”

by Leigh Morrison | Oct 31, 2019 | 0

In D&I work, we often offer suggestions to the effect of: “This is an ongoing journey,” or “Expect a lack of closure.” In essence, both phrases can be boiled down to one statement that would by now be cliché if it wasn’t so essential to continue restating: This work is never done. In this post, I’ll be unpacking some common distancing statements that people may use when trying to assure others that they are on the “right side” of the issues.

Unpacking Conversations That Matter: “I wish I could be as tan as you” and more: Deconstructing Appropriation and the Quest for Authenticity

by Thamara Subramanian | Oct 17, 2019 | 0

When you stand out as being visually “different” in a space, “Where are you from?” “Can I touch your hair?” or (the most interesting,) “I wish I could be as tan as you,” are common questions and comments. Now, disclaimer: I am all for giving genuine compliments; heck, I am more than happy you love my chocolate glow! That being said, there is a fine line between being intentionally curious and celebrating someone’s unique characteristics, and exoticizing these characteristics.

Unpacking the Conversations That Matter: “Everyone Has a Right to Freedom of Expression”

by Leigh Morrison | Oct 10, 2019 | 0

“Why are you upset? Everyone has a right to freedom of expression.” I ask: Is freedom of speech truly available to everyone in this country? If not, what does this tell us? In a world where we must question the physical safety of those who challenge a dominant majority, I suggest: this is no kind of “freedom.”

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: “Homosexuality is wrong. It says so in the Bible.”

by Mary-Frances Winters | Oct 3, 2019 | 0

“I love all people as the Bible commands, but I also cannot condone homosexuality.” “Marriage is reserved for a man and a woman according to the Bible.” “The practice of homosexuality is incompatible with Christian teaching.” Attempting Bold, Inclusive Conversations® in faith-based communities can be especially difficult on value-based topics like human sexuality.

Category: Unpacking the Conversations that Matter

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: Moving Beyond the Veil of Privilege

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: “If you weren’t so ANGRY, people would listen,” and the Problem with “Tone-Policing”

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: “There Just Aren’t Any ‘Qualified’ Black People” and “Those Children Just Don’t Care About Their Education”

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: An Introduction

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: The Essential Power of Challenging Dominant Narratives

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: Pulling Yourself Up By Your Bootstraps When You Don’t Have Boots & Redefining “Hard Work”

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: “It’s just a joke! Why are you so upset?”

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: “That Place Is ‘Dangerous, Shady, Ghetto’ & Paradoxical Perceptions of Our Gentrifying Cities

Unpacking the Conversations That Matter: “Everyone Has a Right to Freedom of Expression”

Unpacking the Conversations that Matter: “Homosexuality is wrong. It says so in the Bible.”

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